Crossing More Books Off My List

Reading has been a little slow over the summer, but I have crossed a few more titles off of my list. So today is another book reading update. To read my thoughts on previous book update posts, click here.

The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins

This book is a good book based off a seemingly too simple idea; the 5 second rule. This rule is wherein “the moment you have an instinct to act on a goal you must 5-4-3-2-1 and physically move or your brain will stop you.” What was interesting was the science behind this rule. By counting backwards from 5 it keeps it short so it’s easy to act upon and you can’t continue counting; when you hit 1 you have to act. Whereas if you counted up you could always continue to count and not act. Counting backwards also distracts you from your worries, focuses you, prompts you to act and interrupts any habits of hesitating, over thinking and holding yourself back. (cough*me*cough). The book later goes on and explains that “human beings are “feeling machines that think” not “thinking machines that feel”. And that’s how you ultimately make decisions – based on how you feel.” That’s why it’s often when we’re at a restaurant trying to decide on what to eat, and we ask ourselves, “What do I feel like eating?”. Every decision we make is based on how we feel.

What I’m Going To Implement From This Book

As I’ve written this blog post I’ve gone back into the book for quotes, so I’ve had a chance to re-read important parts of the book. This has helped more of the tips within the book to sink in and really digest. At first I thought this rule was too simple and something I wouldn’t (and I’ll admit haven’t really) implemented in my life. But looking back just over the last couple of weeks at things and events that have happened, I see where I had that instinct to act but didn’t because I quickly talked or reasoned myself out of doing it. Afterwards I always regret not just acting. So I’m making it my goal to actively use the 5 second rule in my life, daily. I have big goals set for myself and I want to make more progress in achieving them this year. I know I can accomplish my goals, I just need to act, and this rule will push me to do so. By consistently acting on my instincts I’ll gain confidence in myself and my abilities because I’ll see how I an achieve what I want and be the person I want to be in life. I would highly recommend this book for anyone with goals, big or small, that wants help in accomplishing them.

Real Leadership by John Addison

This book, while it is a good book, is definitely geared, and makes more sense, to those in the industry John Addison came from. The book talks about John’s journey through/up the company over the years and how he got to the position of Co-CEO. While I found his writing good, it was more of a story of his life rather than an inspiring, teaching book. But at the end there are some practical concepts explained.

What I’m Going To Implement From This Book

One of my favourite quotes from the book is, “Find what you can control and focus on that.” It’s so easy, at least for me, to get caught up in everything and become one big worrywart. With meditation and good self-care practices I’m working on not worrying so much and to let things go. This quote in the book really spoke to me about the importance of what I’m trying to do. I can’t control everything in my life, so I need to just focus on what I can control if I want to be happy and not stressed. This ‘proof’ continues in this passage from the book.

You can’t wait for things to be better to be happy. You’ve got to be happy first, in order for things to start getting better. And when you are, they will, because happiness attracts people, it draws people to you.

I need to let go, not be stressed, be happy with what I’ve accomplished and who I am now, in order to grow to the level I want to be and be the person I want to become.

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

I think this is a book most people have heard of already. It’s a bestseller for sure. I was interested in reading this book since I’m looking for a long-lasting marriage now that we’re newlyweds. I had a basic understanding of the principles as I had taken the online quiz before reading the book. The examples from real couples that were explained in the book was really interesting though. Learning about the principles and concepts is one thing, but when you can read the real life examples and see how little changes can make a big difference was great! I would definitely recommend this book to couples of all lengths of relationships; from the newlyweds to those married for decades, I think we could all find something interesting and useful in this book.

What I’m Going To Implement From This Book

Some of the key takeaways for me where about not only the different languages but the way we express ourselves and what we’re looking for out of a relationship as well. “The way we express those desires, however, is all-important. If they come across as demands, we have erased the possibility of intimacy and will drive our spouse away. If, however, we make our needs and desires known in the form of a request, we are giving guidance, not ultimatums.” “Your mate may choose to respond to your request or to deny it, because love is always a choice. … To know that my spouse loves me enough to respond to one of my request communicates emotionally that she cares about me, respects me, admires me and wants to do something to please me.” I know communication is key in relationships but that’s not all. The difference between a request and a demand can make a world of a difference in a long-term relationship. Learning what my husband’s and my love language is, will always be in the back of my mind as we go forward.

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

I’ve been reading this book since August 10th and unfortunately have not had enough drive or desire to finish the book yet. So I’m working on finishing it in these next couple of weeks. You can read my thoughts about this book in my next blog post happening later in the year. Until then if you want to read about past books I’ve crossed off of my reading list this year, check out my blog posts here.

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